Ten Techniques of Proper Parenting

Our schools, teachers, textbooks tell us how to be an obedient student, responsible citizen and good human beings. But, no one teaches us how to become a good parent. Only giving birth to a baby doesn’t make your parents for sure, but nourishing him with good moral values makes. The way a tree can grow well with water, air, sunlight and soil, a baby can grow with love, affection, values and guidance. And who can provide it better than parents! So, proper parenting needs more detailed execution. It’ll not only bring you respect from your child but also you’ll set example for many other parents around you.

So here are ---

Ten Techniques of Proper Parenting :

1. Observe Your Child’s Inclinations -

Every child is special. Everyone is born with distinctive auras. If a child follows his capabilities and interests, it will bring him success easily with minimum efforts. As a parent, we must understand it. As parents are child’s first teacher, they must observe the inclinations he possesses from the beginning.  Nourish those talents and knacks and help him to achieve more in life. A good guitarist is way better than a bad doctor. A famous film ‘3 Idiots’ taught us a lot about this. If Sachin Tendulkar was forced to become Lata Mangeshkar then what would have happened! Just imagine.

2. Do Accept His Mistakes and Failures -

‘Failure is the pillar of success’ and ‘To err is human’ these old proverbs still work wonders. If you don’t accept your child’s mistakes today, tomorrow his success won’t bring those tears of joy in your eyes. If he fails, encourage him and tell him not to lose hope. If he makes mistakes, guide him and aware him with its consequences too. Remember ‘mistakes’ are not ‘crimes’.

3. Don’t Compare with Others -

If the two fingers of our hand are not same, its foolish to compare your son with Sharma ji’s beta(son). Competitive mindset is good, but blind ‘rat race’ is not. Teach him to follow some ideologies of some great people of the world, but don’t compare with neighbours’ son. He must not suffer from any kind of inferiority complex at all. 

4. Set an Example by Yourself -

Don’t be a director, be the performer please. Most of the people don’t do what they say and vice versa. If I tell someone not to use slang and I don’t follow it, people will take me fake. So, always let your child learn from your actions along with your words. Your child will definitely respect you for this quality of yours for sure, when they will grow up.

5. Be Friend in Need, Be Strict at Times -

Reward your child for his good deeds. Be strict too if he does wrong. Though I won’t suggest physical punishment much. But your words will be enough to make him realise that all your anger is for his future benefits only. Always remember, encourage him in public but correct him in private. Children have high self-respect level.

6. Make Him a Good Human Being First -

If morals are low, success is meaningless. So, teach him to become a human being in true sense. A sensible man with high thoughts are not only respectable in the society but also self satisfied within. The definition of success changes time to time. For a 2-year-old, standing on his own feet is success. Similarly for 6-year-old, making new friends is success. For a 25-year-old, getting a good job is success. Moreover, if you teach him to have patience and perseverance, success will come automatically.

7. Teach these Healthy Habits -

‘Peace’ is more important than ‘pace’ in life. And peace comes from within if your habits are healthy. Value for commitment, possessive and protective for dear ones, being adaptable to every situation, focusing on actions than words, not to cheat people, not to waste food, not to waste money, maintaining proper hygiene, regular physical exercise, eating right etc. These are some healthy and essential habits which will help him in each and every moment in life.

8. Don’t Quarrel with Your Partner -

Many of us faced this problem during our childhood, but hope this generation as a parent will introspect it more keenly. If you quarrel with your partner or use slang, then it will not only keep you depressed but also put extreme psychological pressure on children. Serious discussion can be done away from your child and in a gentle way. In this growing era of divorces, valuing self respect is essential. Remember, binding your family in a thread of love and respect must be the first priority for us.

9. Guide Him to Focus on Hobbies and Passion -

Life will leave you wounded with depression and loneliness so many times. But your passion will heal them. Imagine a person knows how to play guitar already has music therapy on his fingertips. Education will take your child to his goal but hobbies will bring joy to his soul. So instill the zeal and encourage him in dancing, painting, singing, writing etc. like any of the hobbies.

10. Clear Him about Family's Expectations -

Lastly, teach your child to share almost everything to any of the family members. Psychology says that the children who share everything with their mom-dad-siblings, they are less prone to commit crime or suffer from any kind of depression or anxiety. Teach him the expectations of the family. Guide him about preferences on job, education, friends, life partner etc. once he is a teenager. Imagine, if you give clues like 'an educated housewife' can be a suitable choice for the family like yours, then in future he can set up his mind accordingly. No child will act stubborn to his parents who has given a very well nourished life. Trust me telling these things in advance can open many pores of understanding waiting to be a conflict in future. In the 21st century's modern era, open discussions on these matters will keep your family few steps ahead for sure.

Thank you, Jai Hind.