5 Qualities a Perfect Life Partner must Possess

- February 13, 2022

Like parents lofty in priority ladder,

Like brothers self-same in behavioural symmetry,

Like sisters in sharing secrets,

We all want a HOME in a person!

Let’s talk about our HOME-ly person this day. Who curves us in a smile; carves not the cramps. A person who splits the pain (and the bills), a shoulder that embraces you when you pour tears is worth more than your deluxe Sleepwell mattress. All we need is a person to call HOME, a person who makes amend to mend the bonds.

Drifting a little, we always squint for perfection in our partner, perfect in looks, perfect in books. Exemplifying the supreme, we always go for the extreme. Better than the best. Not realising, there’s always someone who is better than the rest, if not better than the best. You will always find your Krrish, if not your Krishna. A perfect partner is hence a delusion, all whims and fancies. So, instead of finding one, focus more on becoming one. It’s not about how much love you have when it started but how much love you have made till the end.

Humans are the uncaged birds, vagabonds of the seventh heavens. Hold them close, see them moving mountains for you. Fortunate and loved. Release them, watch the rays hiding behind, your saddest sunset. Unfortunate and unloved. So, cheer up, presenting you the right swipes for your dating profile, the “Pyaar ka Punchnama”.

1. Friend Request :

'Pyaar dosti hai', not just in SRK’s movies but also in actuality. Love rabbits the path that friendship burrows. It’s not always about making love, but it’s about being crazy together, to cackle at each other’s lame jokes, to catch their vibes. Or to get recklessly drunk, knowing you are safe with them and to be there for them when they need you. Going on vacations, enjoying their company. Find the Timon to your Pumba.

So, my dearies, Is there romance or menace in your relationship?

Choosing ‘em daily is the most romantic feeling. Never let this romance die. Rock paper scissors, nobody is at loss. We gain trust, discover the other self, release stress, confront flaws (ours & theirs). Carry truth down your sleeves, always. Hold on to them, grow together, as partners and individuals.

2. Time & Tide Wait for Them :

Treat them as your basic need. No one is ever too busy to have a small chat. Find that person with whom even six hours feels like six minutes. Where revolving minutes doesn’t matter. No matter what, that person will never get bored of you. But understand, they also have to deal with a world, that lives beyond you. Disaster in one can bring havoc to both worlds. So, do not meddle into their personal space, privacy is their right. Be protective without being toxic.

Maturity is not about being adult, it’s about understanding their situations. Giving them time and space to explain their side. Putting yourself in their shoes. Pretty faces will wrinkle someday, but loyal partners will stay forever. Loyalty is a choice but trust is a feeling. Trust your instincts not your insecurities. Getting emotionally intimate with your partner, admitting your wrongs and learning from them is the real charm.

3. Beauty and the Beast :

Embrace the love they shower and accept the demons they weigh. Springs and Autumns, there will be season where things will go the finest and there will also be a weather where a petty breaking bough will give you scars. In short if there is happiness, sadness is inevitable in your relationship as well. So, love them with all their flaws, only the beauty in you can bring reforms to their souls. But you know, “Daag achche hain”, if there were no scars, there would have no moon. Surf the ocean in you, take back the excel-goodies, throw away what’s trash.

Knowing all good is equivalent to not knowing them at all. Good and bad makes a man. There, there you have to compromise with 60-40. You have to give your 60 and make their 40 a one zero zero.

4. Continuous Communication Channel :

The deal breaker in a relationship has always been the lack of communication. Ask any random person, who have had their breakup recently, the most probable reason they would say is misunderstanding. Misunderstanding your partner is the new trend. Hence, communication should be a full circle, both ways. Alohomora, know the key to their heart.

Open up to your partner, tell them how you feel, remind them that they are loved.

You should listen up to the things that upset them. The problems they face can be small for you but your little encouragement and support can do wonders. Read the forgotten pages of the memoir, cherish the time you spent together. Discuss fake scenarios, revisit the time when you said “YES” to them. Lovely. Have the courage to support your partner even when the whole world goes against them. You then become their comfort zone, their secret diary. Their go-to partner when nothing is working out. Make them comfortable talking to you, try to understand the deeper meanings of their silence. Never hit the bed, with unresolved fights. Empathise the other. Change, but only to bring out the best.

5. Respect Versus Red Flags :

Whether it’s Parle-ji or Pub-ji, respecting someone is always attractive. Try not to get OP (Overpowered) in the chats with your partner. Because that’s not going to earn you a Chicken Dinner. Jokes apart, respect is the most crucial element in any relationship. Do not ignore the red flags. Never lose your cool and cross your limits with your ugly utterance. Words can both heal and peel. Respect their sentiments, don’t take them for granted. Prioritising your partner doesn’t make you “Joru ka gulaam” or say a henpecked husband. Don’t dominate them, Dobby has no master. Make them feel special and important without judging them for their shortcomings and vulnerabilities. Gorgeous, gorgeous people forgive and set themselves free from the prison of hatred-ness and self-doubt. Break the maze of negativity, do not crown your ego. Your little efforts, day in, day out is appreciable. Winter’s warmth or Summer’s scorch, the choice is yours.