5 Secrets Of Maintaining a Healthy Relationship

- February 13, 2022

“I don’t want to be your favourite or your best,

I want to be your only and forget the rest”

Don’t miss-out these lines just because you can make one, as these have enough energy to well up your every single neuron with Dopamine, Serotonin and Oxytocin.

Love is the bowstring which is awesome when perfectly measured and stretched. It can launch you to your destination or if over stretched, it will result in your drastic fall.

But honestly, with my point of view, its just a mark, a footnote left by our ancestors on which we walk on. Like ‘The famous Radha-Krishna love story’, ‘Henry II and Rosamund Clifford legend’ or 'the immortal Yarn of Romeo-Julliet,' all goes in the same pattern to preach us the real essence of love.

But wait a sec, don’t be manipulative or judgemental too fast as you may misread my definition of love as a Carbon-Carbon bond of feelings and emotions between the opposite sexes. As I mentioned above Love is just a medium, a road which connects the mind and soul of two or more people, that maybe you and your parents, you and your friend circle or may I say a cute semi-circle or you and your love; But end of the list you are still in a relationship. And as the word 'relationship' has come in our article so a bit knowledge for this too.

Dating back to the ancient time when the humans had just discovered that it's love which make them blush, it's love which improves the mood, its love which empowers them to aspire, since then a problem has accompanied with it.

Let me be succinct with my points, as a human falls in relation with someone as soon as he welcomes himself to this world and with the passage of time the relation seems to deteriorate, but why?

The causes can be millions but the solutions are limited. Always keep in point that, “DO NOT RUSH TO THE ‘RIGHT ANSWER’ THE KEY ALWAYS IS TO ASK THE ‘RIGHT QUESTION". Many a times we are blindfolded by our own ignorance and go insane for the mishaps we face rather than in the pursuit to shape those mishaps. Do that and woah you are about to surface those answers.

1. Don't Be a HITLER :

Pushpa!! Pushpa Raj, Main Jhukega nhi saala…(A typical but energetic Tollywood dialogue)

At a point we start pressurising our own-self, the effects arrive in a form of cementing of a wall of ego between us. It’s acceptable when we nurture self-respect because that’s a human’s diadem, but as soon as it thrives ego believe me it becomes a havoc.

People need to understand that one expects care and kindness in love not hate and arrogance. Ego & self-respect are divided by a thin frail line. You are on self-respect, a step side and you are on ego. So try to restrain yourself on the other side only.

2. Compliment in Public, Criticise in Private :

This is co-related with what you read above, if self-respect covers the whole circle, then ego surely exists as a small segment in it. You will wound the ego and the blood with cover the complete pie. There is a fact that A coin has two faces, honesty is always accompanied by corruption and darkness prevails under the grave.

You are subjected to your partner’s respect, safeguard it. Praise her doings in public and acknowledge her faults in private. This will surely strength up the gravitational pull of your love.

3. Break the Chain, Free the Bird :

What is the most appealing thing to any creature in this world? Any Guesses!!

Obviously it's Freedom, history is the proof of how people killed and got killed just to experience that. And if you again chain them with your insecurities it will drive them insane.

You need to understand that, they have the rein of their own life, their own friend circle and their own field of interest and you can’t simply enclose them within yourself just because you are affectionate towards them.

Maybe, unknowingly but your attraction, desire and possessiveness might have tamed them, they may feel suffocated with your love and regret on their decision.

So, for once love their freedom and see how it chains both of you together.

4. If You Love the Rising SUN, Love the Setting SUN as Well :

'THE PURSUIT OF BEING PERFECT NEVER ENDS'

I am not a psychologist but I well understand the human needs, humans want to possess all the godly qualities they never had, and same is in their partner.

'Happiness' is directly linked with expectations, when expectations aren’t met, happiness starts to fade away. Why don’t we understand a simple logic that our partner is a human too, and imperfections are human’s jewel. It's imperfections that beautify their traits and make them beautiful. Even god love imperfections.

For once fall for the imperfections of your partner and see how you'll be in perfect love.

5. If I Exist, There Would Be The Other Me :

'Differences part us away whereas similarities binds us together.'

If you love AP Dhillon but they like to groove on Badshah’s music then for once let them hear the song with earbuds shared with you, you will notice the change in your mood same like you used to be on AP’s.

Just call her to provide you company and enjoy the sixes by Dhoni and you will witness how a non-cricket enthusiast dances with you over the win. Sit by her side and pass her tissue when she sobs on the hero’s death in her fav serial and see the love in her eyes for you.

Similarities are the super glue which can even dissipate the broken marks. Interest shared is the love shared. So embrace the common birds and hype your love.